One year ago...I was in labor. I was in the worst pain of my life, and I was wondering so many things...
Can I do this?
Is it worth it?
When will Finn be here?
What will he be like?
Will I be a good mother?
Will he love me?
Will I love him as much as I think I will?
Will Randy and I make a good team?
Can we do this?
It was one of the scariest times of my life. But it was so worth it.
Today Finn turned one. I am now the mother of a toddler. I cannot believe it. It is still so utterly surreal. There are STILL days when I look at him and think "I can't believe he is mine." But he is, and now he's not a baby anymore, he's a toddler, which is just ONE step before "child" and then "preteen" and then "teen" and then (GULP) "adult."
I don't want to be the type of mother that laments that her baby is growing up too fast, because I know that with each new day, comes new adventures and new great things. But...I also miss some things about baby-hood...and it's hard to believe that I have to let go of his "babyhood" so quickly.
He will always be MY baby, but he's such a big boy, and I'm so proud of him.
Wednesday, January 4, 2012
Tuesday, January 3, 2012
The battle of the Junior Mints
Okay, so yesterday....I started my diet. Stop laughing, because I'm serious. I did really, REALLY well, and while Randy and I were working out (together...yes, seriously STOP LAUGHING!) he said "I don't know why, but I feel like this time is different." and I wanted to hug him. I wanted to shout "IT IS! IT HAS TO BE!" but I didn't want to be a weirdo, so I just smiled and nodded and I said, "It does feel different."
Yesterday we made our first healthy meal of 2012. It was steak with peppers and onions, and it was really good. Low carb, low sodium, but not low taste. It was delicious. Wanna see a picture? I thought you might. Yum, right?
So, yesterday was hard. I only had two cans of diet
pop (which is a lot less than normal, which is somewhat embarrassing), and no sweets ( which was downright difficult). I wasn't hungry, but I was craving sweets. I walked into school yesterday (which sucks enough in itself), and there was a bag on my desk, with an AMC movie gift certificate, and about 305 boxes of candy in it
(I may be exaggerating...slightly), and I didn't do it. I didn't eat one piece.
However, there were junior mints in there. I put every other box of candy into another bag to give to one of my Secret Santas at school, EXCEPT the junior mints. Those I left in the bag, because in some part of my mind, junior mints aren't as bad as other candies (delusional). I left them at school, and didn't eat them.
This morning, I put them in my bag and trudged over to my photography room. I thought, maybe I'll just have a few. After first hour, I looked at them, they taunted me. I said "NO!" After second hour, I looked at them, and they started taunting me again.
I opened them, and dumped them out (Betty, please don't be mad about this!). I didn't just throw the box out, I DUMPED out each little chocolate piece of goodness.
I was seriously proud of myself. I thought, maybe this time really IS different. I walked proudly to my meeting during my plan hour, with my head held high.
Then I walked into my classroom, and this was on my desk.
Why so many tests? FML.
Notice that they are unopened...as of yet.
:(
Damn junior mints.
Sunday, January 1, 2012
Ch-ch-ch changes.
Well, in the spirit of the new year, I will now talk about the dreaded, the awful...resolutions. Resolutions are something I almost always make, but rarely keep. This year, I have...a few. They are not surprising, but they are important. I mean, they are really important. I have to make these happen.
1. Fat to fit: First...I need to get back into some semblance of "shape." I have never been an athlete, but I've also never been a "fatty" either, until now. I vividly remember running with my sister-in-law one day, and saying to her "I've never been heavier than I am at this moment" and meaning it. I weighed 144 pounds, and I'm telling you I'd be more-than-pleased to be in that weight class again. Throughout high school I probably floated around 120 or so, and always felt fat. Always. How sad is that? In college, I had moments of 120s and moments of 130s. I remember getting to a size 6 at one point, and being so tremendously proud of myself. After college I probably floated around the 140s to 150s, and was pretty content with that. I also started running, and working out, and generally felt "fit" for the first time. I could (at one point) run six miles...STRAIGHT! Like, without stopping at all. How cool is that?
Let me just say, that is not the case now. I don't know that I could run a FOURTH of a mile right now. I have just gotten so damn complacent. After Finn was born, I thought to myself, this is it. I'm going to get back in shape, but I wasn't prepared for what having a child entails. I wasn't ready for the lack of sleep, for the intense, over-the-top in love feeling that I would feel for that little angel-baby, and the apathy that I would feel about doing ANYTHING other than snuggling that little one, I didn't know about how difficult breastfeeding would be, or how I would struggle with things that felt easy before. I didn't know that I would feel like that, but I did. I didn't want to do anything other than love on him. So, I let it all go. I stopped caring, and stopped trying, and let things go.
And, Randy and I have had numerous conversations about "we need to stop (fill in the blank)" Fill it that blank with eating out, eating candy, being pigs, etc. And it always sounds like a good idea, but I just didn't care enough, I hope that I do now, because I don't my eating habits to impact my child's life.
It's happening now, well, tomorrow actually. Randy and I are starting a program called fit2fat2fit. You can check it out if you want at www.fit2fat2fit.com. There is a guy who is a personal trainer, and gained 70 pounds (to find out how it felt to be overweight), and is now publishing his eating and workout plans to get back to "fit."
Who knows if this will be one of the times that I will fail, but all I know is that I need to change. I need to eat healthier, I need to be more active, and this is what we are going to try. I don't want to be back in the 120s, I just want to feel healthy again. And I want this type of healthiness to continue into other pregnancies, so that I don't have the same problems again. That's my first resolution, and it dovetails into my second one.
2. Mommy: I want to be the best mom that I can be to Finn. I don't think that I'm a bad mom, I actually think that I am pretty good at being a mom, but I also know that I let stress get to me, and forget about what's important sometimes (less clean house, more happy memories). I want to remember that this time with him is so fleeting, and that I need to remember that, each and every day. I want to keep striving to be the best mother that I can be, keep reading, keep researching, keep loving, keep learning about how to be the best mother I can be. I want my children to look back at their childhood and remember happiness, and love, and laughter and I need to make that happen. Honestly, I think I'm doing a good job so far, though there are obviously things that I need to change, some things that I can share now, and some that I really can't (yet). But, more than anything else in the world, I know that I want to be the best mom I can be, and that is what I will try to do.
3. Business: I have a photography business, in case you didn't know. Pop over there if you're bored www.hoylecunningham.com (or "like" us on facebook). This is one of my passions in life, and I am hoping that 2012 is the year that our business can take off. I don't know exactly HOW to do it, but I want to make some serious strides to make it happen this year.
Okay, so here's where I beg for help from the very few readers that I have. I am going to try to blog about weight loss once a week, with an update. If any of you want to help keep me accountable, I'd appreciate it :)
1. Fat to fit: First...I need to get back into some semblance of "shape." I have never been an athlete, but I've also never been a "fatty" either, until now. I vividly remember running with my sister-in-law one day, and saying to her "I've never been heavier than I am at this moment" and meaning it. I weighed 144 pounds, and I'm telling you I'd be more-than-pleased to be in that weight class again. Throughout high school I probably floated around 120 or so, and always felt fat. Always. How sad is that? In college, I had moments of 120s and moments of 130s. I remember getting to a size 6 at one point, and being so tremendously proud of myself. After college I probably floated around the 140s to 150s, and was pretty content with that. I also started running, and working out, and generally felt "fit" for the first time. I could (at one point) run six miles...STRAIGHT! Like, without stopping at all. How cool is that?
Let me just say, that is not the case now. I don't know that I could run a FOURTH of a mile right now. I have just gotten so damn complacent. After Finn was born, I thought to myself, this is it. I'm going to get back in shape, but I wasn't prepared for what having a child entails. I wasn't ready for the lack of sleep, for the intense, over-the-top in love feeling that I would feel for that little angel-baby, and the apathy that I would feel about doing ANYTHING other than snuggling that little one, I didn't know about how difficult breastfeeding would be, or how I would struggle with things that felt easy before. I didn't know that I would feel like that, but I did. I didn't want to do anything other than love on him. So, I let it all go. I stopped caring, and stopped trying, and let things go.
And, Randy and I have had numerous conversations about "we need to stop (fill in the blank)" Fill it that blank with eating out, eating candy, being pigs, etc. And it always sounds like a good idea, but I just didn't care enough, I hope that I do now, because I don't my eating habits to impact my child's life.
It's happening now, well, tomorrow actually. Randy and I are starting a program called fit2fat2fit. You can check it out if you want at www.fit2fat2fit.com. There is a guy who is a personal trainer, and gained 70 pounds (to find out how it felt to be overweight), and is now publishing his eating and workout plans to get back to "fit."
Who knows if this will be one of the times that I will fail, but all I know is that I need to change. I need to eat healthier, I need to be more active, and this is what we are going to try. I don't want to be back in the 120s, I just want to feel healthy again. And I want this type of healthiness to continue into other pregnancies, so that I don't have the same problems again. That's my first resolution, and it dovetails into my second one.
2. Mommy: I want to be the best mom that I can be to Finn. I don't think that I'm a bad mom, I actually think that I am pretty good at being a mom, but I also know that I let stress get to me, and forget about what's important sometimes (less clean house, more happy memories). I want to remember that this time with him is so fleeting, and that I need to remember that, each and every day. I want to keep striving to be the best mother that I can be, keep reading, keep researching, keep loving, keep learning about how to be the best mother I can be. I want my children to look back at their childhood and remember happiness, and love, and laughter and I need to make that happen. Honestly, I think I'm doing a good job so far, though there are obviously things that I need to change, some things that I can share now, and some that I really can't (yet). But, more than anything else in the world, I know that I want to be the best mom I can be, and that is what I will try to do.
3. Business: I have a photography business, in case you didn't know. Pop over there if you're bored www.hoylecunningham.com (or "like" us on facebook). This is one of my passions in life, and I am hoping that 2012 is the year that our business can take off. I don't know exactly HOW to do it, but I want to make some serious strides to make it happen this year.
Okay, so here's where I beg for help from the very few readers that I have. I am going to try to blog about weight loss once a week, with an update. If any of you want to help keep me accountable, I'd appreciate it :)
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